tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8965992396463811283.post3430361667654269304..comments2021-04-28T02:30:27.192-07:00Comments on Heads nor Tails: A Weedy Sort of LoveUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8965992396463811283.post-59462421776820437222013-05-16T02:49:43.024-07:002013-05-16T02:49:43.024-07:00I'm sorry. My parents are socially awkward as ...I'm sorry. My parents are socially awkward as well. Hell, so am I. I've come to realize that is why I have always felt out of step with the crowd, it's because my parents never showed me how to interact with people in a friendly manner. Sometimes I think that if I didn't have a big family I'd be a very lonely person. But I know this, and I have been making an effort to have a life, to pay attention to how I am with people and try to learn the ways that healthy relationships work. I don't have any kids so if I don't maintain friendships I will truly die alone and miserable. <br />That's the only thing that keeps my mom from becoming a total hermit, see. If she didn't have grandchildren, she wouldn't have any excuse to leave the house or do anything other than watch TV and stare at her computer and phone. My former father-in-law was even worse. He was so rude to everyone, even his family, that it just felt like he hated us all. He'd walk around his neighborhood and talk to the neighbors, but only because he was so bored and lonely that he had to do it. When he passed away, there were less than 10 people that came to the funeral including his family. There was one guy that actually cared, but the fact is, Dad had never said one nice thing about that kid, and complained about him constantly. So I don't know, I guess it was his choice to be friendless, and he only tolerated the family. <br /><br />It sounds like your mom just does not feel comfortable enough with others to ever enjoy "friends" the way you'd like her to. I don't know what to suggest, but all you can really do is talk to her and be there for her as much as you can. You're doing your part.PirateHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06605736515492873293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8965992396463811283.post-3165230899754840622013-05-15T08:25:12.478-07:002013-05-15T08:25:12.478-07:00Sounds very familiar. My mother was like that too...Sounds very familiar. My mother was like that too. She lived to 93. The last miserable years in a nursing home where she not only insulted other patients, but the staff who cared for her.<br /><br />The only thing we can really do is to try to make sure we do not become like them. I know I sometimes am and I hate it about myself.Merikayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05378095339747943548noreply@blogger.com