I've been doing all things grave-y lately. A lot of family history stuff, including scanning old family photos and letters. I've probably said this before, but I'm going to say it again:
Seriously! We have stacks of unmarked photos that we'll NEVER really know who they were. We've had a little luck comparing them with records on the LDS Family Search site, but most of them are of folks whose identities are lost. DON'T do that!
Here are a couple examples:
And my husband's side of the family is no better. Most of them are more easily traced than mine, but they, too, have a crappy habit of not marking photos:
And then there's this amazing gem:
So I'm saying it again--MARK YOUR PHOTOS SO YOU DON'T LEAVE FOLKS SCRATCHING THEIR HEADS AND WISHING THEY COULD PUT NAME TO FACE!
In addition to the family history thing, we've been visiting local cemeteries. Some of the stones, especially the hand carved ones, are really wrenching. All backward letters and misspelled words and heart. So much heart.
Plus, I've been cataloguing some English and Welsh cemeteries as I come across the headstones online. I started in Herefordshire, hoping to come across something related to my husband's family, but got caught up in the history of it. I now know that the Caroline Spooner was the largest Barque ever built at Aberystwyth. That's "A-bur-uh-stew-uth."
If only someone would pay me to archive stuff like this. Because I'm good at it, I love doing it (I do it for FUN), and it's important. Except most folks don't think it is important.
Sadly.
A big "I wouldn't piss on your face if your teeth were on fire" shout out to those teabaggers on Capital Hill who have, once again, decided to slash my husband's transit benefit. That's another 50+ bucks a month gone, though they've INCREASED the parking benefit (which we don't receive). In other words, they're doing what they can to reduce ridership on mass transit so they can then claim that mass transit, which isn't supposed to "turn a profit" anyway, isn't turning a profit. So they can slash mass transit funding. So their buddies in the oil industry make more money off the increased number of cars on the road in an already devastatingly traffic congested area.
And they think we don't know what they're up to. These are the same guys who squeal about some dead birds at wind farms, while protesting the fines levied against British Petroleum for oil spills that killed millions of birds and fish.
Luckily, they're going to give my husband his first raise in four years.
NOT!
Mmm hmm. You can torch your damned teeth any ol' time, guys.
Still wandering around with a temporary crown in my face. Which has the other side, where I have no molars, raw and sad because that's where I've been chewing. Scared to death that, despite all the assurances that we have enough credit with the dentist's office to more than cover this, I'm going to go in on the ninth and be told I owe.
We have no money. Seriously, none. Which is why I was so careful to confirm, repeatedly, that this would carry no out-of-pocket cost to us. But I'm scared. Scared I'm going to utterly explode on them if they try to hold my permanent crown hostage in return for payment they said wouldn't be due.
I'm going to close with a picture of a tree. Because we live in a place with great trees. Trees that dwarf and put to shame those sad, scraggly things in Utah.
Mark your photographs!
Here are a couple examples:
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| Zero clue, probably taken in Camden or Philly, 1930s, maybe? |
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| Zero clue--we all agree the lady down front right looks like she could be related. |
And my husband's side of the family is no better. Most of them are more easily traced than mine, but they, too, have a crappy habit of not marking photos:
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| Mormon Missionaries, one of whom is a relative |
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| So we know where it was taken, but not who it is. |
And then there's this amazing gem:
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| An actual tintype. It's not in good shape, I had to "fix" her cheek in Photoshop because a chunk is missing. |
So I'm saying it again--MARK YOUR PHOTOS SO YOU DON'T LEAVE FOLKS SCRATCHING THEIR HEADS AND WISHING THEY COULD PUT NAME TO FACE!
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Plus, I've been cataloguing some English and Welsh cemeteries as I come across the headstones online. I started in Herefordshire, hoping to come across something related to my husband's family, but got caught up in the history of it. I now know that the Caroline Spooner was the largest Barque ever built at Aberystwyth. That's "A-bur-uh-stew-uth."
If only someone would pay me to archive stuff like this. Because I'm good at it, I love doing it (I do it for FUN), and it's important. Except most folks don't think it is important.
Sadly.
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Speaking of cemeteries, headstones, and the like, I've been noticing how, even in death, women are marginalized, they're minimized, they're lost to history because, so often, their "maiden" names are not included on the headstone. So Margaret Griffiths gets married, becomes Margaret Davies, but her headstone only reads "Margaret Davies," or worse "Margaret, wife of Hugh Davies."
Like she's just an aside, an afterthought. As though she never was anything but an extension of the man she married. Descendants run up against brick walls when trying to trace the women in their family's history. Maybe, if they're lucky, they'll find a church record or census that relays the woman's birth name, but, often as not, that doesn't happen.
That's got me thinking just how incredibly sexist the whole idea of "maiden name" versus "married name" really is. Like a woman belongs to her father until some man takes her, renames her, and turns her from "maiden" to "matron." The historic meaning of "maiden" makes this glaringly obvious.
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And they think we don't know what they're up to. These are the same guys who squeal about some dead birds at wind farms, while protesting the fines levied against British Petroleum for oil spills that killed millions of birds and fish.
Luckily, they're going to give my husband his first raise in four years.
NOT!
Mmm hmm. You can torch your damned teeth any ol' time, guys.
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Still wandering around with a temporary crown in my face. Which has the other side, where I have no molars, raw and sad because that's where I've been chewing. Scared to death that, despite all the assurances that we have enough credit with the dentist's office to more than cover this, I'm going to go in on the ninth and be told I owe.
We have no money. Seriously, none. Which is why I was so careful to confirm, repeatedly, that this would carry no out-of-pocket cost to us. But I'm scared. Scared I'm going to utterly explode on them if they try to hold my permanent crown hostage in return for payment they said wouldn't be due.
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